I sometimes hear people who are very upset about their spouse’s behavior during a trial or divorce. Often, they have reluctantly agreed to separate because they do not feel they have a choice or because they hope the rest will actually improve their situation. Some people become very frustrated when their spouse avoids or ignores them during separation and they are not sure what to do about this.
I heard from a wife: “I can honestly tell you, I never wanted to be separated from a trial, but my husband insisted that he should see for himself if he was happy. He needed some space to resolve his feelings. So I respected this request and decided to support him. When I called him, he did not give me my call, I went to his office once for lunch, hoping we could have lunch together, but he said I had a meeting and hoped he would call me later that night but he I do not think so .I do not think so .I do not think so .I do not think so. I will try to address these issues in the next article.
Here are some common reasons why your spouse may feel neglected: Here are some common ones. Below is a list of what I find most common.
Your spouse feels that you are too strong or that you do not allow them to ask: Often, if you talk to the husband at this point, he will tell you that he is not ignoring his wife. Instead, he tries to get the time and space she promised him but not now. In fact, the wife usually sees things in a completely different way. She often does not think that calling or swinging for lunch is too much. In her mind, they are constantly agreeing to see each other and she acts accordingly. But the couple who want to separate can often be overly sensitive about their “time” and “space”. So, if you see that he ignores you, maybe ask yourself if you are reaching out too much. Try to step back a bit and see if it improves the situation.
He may be legally busy at first but then he pulls out in response to your own actions: Here is something I often see. Sometimes, the spouse who started the separation is legally too busy. When they say they have a work meeting or something similar, they sometimes tell you the truth. But then, the wife’s response to that legal release is so strong that the husbands begin to distance themselves. In other words, in the above situation, the husband may be really busy, but the wife’s fear and emergency phone calls helped to distance him further. Be careful not to overreact and run this completely unnecessary process.
He tries to see what kind of reaction he can get from you: Some people decide to let their spouse take the lead in separation, or they will somehow hang on and see what their spouse is doing. Sometimes, they try to shift the power a bit by trying to see if they can chase you. You need to look closely to see if this applies to your case and to determine how you should respond. If he tries to get a reaction from you, maybe it’s better not to fall into that trap, because it only brings negative reactions and emotions.
How to handle a breakup when you feel neglected: I know he’s very tempted to get emotional and he wants to face you and see you more. But, this can be a big mistake. If you try to force it, he will back down even more. And he must have thought to himself that he was right to leave. You do not need this. My favorite way to handle it is to shorten the next communication. Tell him that you see that he is busy and interested and, therefore, you rely on him to contact you at a better time. This puts a burden on him and ensures that you are not too strong. It also increases the likelihood that he will start a relationship that is better than you are now and pursue you.