Leadership is an interactive conversation that draws people towards becoming comfortable with the language of personal responsibility and commitment.
Leadership is not just for people at the top. Everyone can learn to lead by discovering the power that exists within each of us to make a difference and be prepared when the call to lead comes.
Albert Einstein once said, “We should make sure not to make the intellect our god; it naturally has powerful muscles but no personality. It cannot lead, it can only serve.” Leaders know and science has discovered the deeper purpose of emotionality: the time-consuming mechanisms of emotion allow two people to receive the content of each person’s senses. Emotions are the messengers of love; it is the vehicle that carries each signal from one full heart to another.
Leadership is applicable to all aspects of life: a skill that you can learn to broaden your perspective, set the context for a goal, understand the dynamics of human behavior and take the initiative to get where you want to be.
Here are five guiding principles that guide respectful conversation:
1. When peers join, change occurs. Effective coaching can be done on
dance floor for conversation.
2. It’s OK to start a conversation by confronting the other person with questions
which seems awkward but sets the stage for a respectful exchange. Why waste time
in small talk? Just ask current questions that seek information, such as: “What is it
you here for? How do you want to spend our time together? “
3. Conversations are not meant to be structured. Be open to conversation like
you are unprepared for and focused on the other person’s interests (not yours
4. Do not engage in solving problems that may not matter to the other person.
Give the person time to get to what really matters. Provide spaces there
they can express their doubts and fears by being a thoughtful listener – without
assumes the responsibility to address or discuss the issue. After all, you have invited
the person who is going to talk about what is important to her or him, not you, so make time for it
the articulation of these thoughts and feelings.
5. Personal transformation takes place when the right questions are asked – not off
give answers. When you focus on the solution, you are trying to sell the person
something. When you let people answer their own questions, they discover
what they were not aware of — and what is needed to move forward. Personal
transformation leads corporate transformation – one person at a time.
Therefore, leadership development is not an event. It is a process of participating in respectful conversations where the leader recognizes his or her own and others’ feelings in order to build secure and trusting relationships. For humans, deep feeling is synonymous with being alive.